A True Fan vs. Being a Jerk

 

Rarely do I write this kind of article, but after an experience during the Minnesota Wild vs. New Jersey Devils game aka the first game Zach Parise played in the Garden State as an opposing player I just felt like this had to be done. If you’ve followed my writing you’ll notice I almost never refer to myself as ‘I,’ – ‘me,’ or anything similar — its always about representing The Hockey Writers, but for this article it will be mostly my opinion on what happened at the game on March 20 and what happens in arenas, stadiums & ballparks across the country. And anything that is considered to be my opinion that is written in this article in no way represents the THW and their thoughts on this matter.

Quebec Nordiques

Devils fans are usually very welcoming, just ask Nordiques Nation. (Ed Mulholland-US PRESSWIRE)

My friend Mia Siegert had an extra seat, couldn’t find anyone to go with her & didn’t want to miss this game — so instead of sitting in the press box as usual, I sat in the stands with her talking about hockey and writing from ten minutes before puck drop until the midway point of the third period when I returned to the press box and this is what really happened in Section 123 at the Prudential Center.

Prudential Center    (Gosh@/Flickr)

Prudential Center (Gosh@/Flickr)

As knowledgeable sports fans who have attended any professional or even high school/college games, you know that if you wear the visiting team’s jerseys, ball caps, apparel (whatever it may be) – that chances are pretty solid that some fans of the home team at that game may make a comment or two towards you. Depending on how much alcohol they have consumed it could be profanity-laced, or it could just be rambling nonsense.

By now most of you may or may not know that there was a nameless fan that posted something about how he was the ‘victim’ at this game and was treated unfairly, etc. Most of it, if not all of it, was without a doubt in my opinion self-inflicted. If you’re that guy, the one who decided to wear a Zach Parise Team USA jersey to that particular game, there’s no way he cannot know that he has a target on his back.

Meaning, there are two paths he can choose here, he can:

A)   Accept the fact that he most likely will hear some comments, some of which may include vulgarity; take it all in stride, and try to have fun with everyone, but in a respectful way.

B)   Argue with EVERYONE who says something to him. Become the center of attention. Do things like standing up while the play is ongoing. Enraging and egging on fans that already weren’t too fond of him because of HIS CHOICE of wardrobe that night.

He gave his account of the nights events here on Reddit, and then supposedly deleted his account. (For the record I don’t use Reddit, don’t know much about it):

The nameless fan’s take of what happened

It’s on the Internet so it must be true right? Nope.

IF fans were saying gay slurs towards him and was he saying them back does that make it right? Nope

Is this something that happens often at sporting events? Yup.

Does that make it right? Nope

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Zach Parise played his first game back in New Jersey on March 20. (Brace Hemmelgarn-USA TODAY Sports)

I’m convinced if he just sat there and minded his own business, cheered for his team (if that even is his team) in a respectful manner, there would have been no issues. It’s understandable that the Devils fans might want to boo Zach Parise every time his name is mentioned, every time he touches the puck. Some wanted to, others didn’t; in my mind, as paying ticket holders they have that right and that choice. In Rick Nash’s first game as a New York Rangers player in Columbus (March 21) he was cheered and booed during a pre-game video tribute and then booed throughout the game when he had the puck. (Nash had requested a trade and got one, Parise left as a UFA).

The part that I keep coming back to in my head is when in the third period he decided to just stand in front of his seat while the play was ongoing. After a few minutes of fans telling him, shouting at him, chanting at him to sit down (with vulgarity), an arena security guard came down the stairs to his row and asked him to sit down; more than once, without yelling or raising his voice. Now the fans in 123 and other sections start chanting “KICK HIM OUT!!” and another chant that refers to your backside (use your imagination). What does our friend in the USA jersey do? Instead of sitting down he pulls his ticket out, says I’m doing nothing wrong and pulls his phone out and records video/takes pictures.

Remember Option B from earlier — becoming the center of attention? When you read what Mia posted in response to the nameless fan’s Reddit post, which I can vouch for and solemnly swear is a 100% accurate account of what happened, I think you will agree that he chose to take that path with Option B and that was his goal from the minute he walked out of his house that day:

Mia’s take on what happened

“People yelled after he stood up and started flipping us the bird and using homophobic slurs at us/our players,” Mia wrote in her post. “I turned back and asked him to stop and to please respect us in our house. His answer, ‘Are you blanking kidding me? This is a hockey game.’”

Boston's Fenway Park

Boston’s Fenway Park

As a fan of the New York Yankees, if I went to Fenway Park in Boston in a pinstripe jersey & my interlocking NY cap — I’m minding my own business, I’m in enemy territory, cheering only when my team scores and I’ll probably laugh it off if anyone makes any comments towards me, I may even agree with them; the last thing I care about is being disrespected. But that’s just me and how I think and operate in my life, and trust me, I know I’m not like a lot of other people, I’ve never been a follower, or a trouble maker.

I also don’t drink often, and the nameless fan was 100% drinking that night and I honestly felt really bad leaving Mia there, without a friend she knew right next to her, despite the fact there were some great men/dads in her row (with their kids as she described) if anything happened. This guy was looking to cause a disturbance, there’s not a doubt in my mind about that and as the day has gone on I have read accounts that this nameless fan has also done this in other arenas.

I’m not going to post his picture or look up his name because it’s not really about this one guy and I know most of you already know what he looks like and if not can easily find out via the power of social media, networking and Google. Honestly, it’s very likely that there are probably people like him at almost every sporting event and while that’s not really okay, I can kind of accept and understand that it’s just the way it is at this moment in our society. I definitely don’t agree with it, but all I can do is be myself and do what I do. There will always be some bad apples in a crowd, it’s more important that people don’t overreact.

I seriously thought there were a few times where there was definitely potential for a fight to break out because he kept arguing with everyone, but I didn’t see, hear of, or notice anyone throw anything at him or put their hands on him while I was there. I guess cooler heads prevailed until the end of the night when he knew that even if he was kicked out of the game it was just about to end anyway.

A comical version of what happens when you wear visiting team apparel as a fan:

You can find Mia Siegert on Twitter: @MiaSiegert if you want to hear more of her side of the story; and her website is: www.miasiegert.com

Dan Rice can be reached via Twitter: @DRdiabloTHW or via Email: drdiablo321@yahoo.com

Dan Rice

Dan Rice

Dan Rice is in his 3rd year of reporting for THW & has covered NJ Devils home games for 10+ years at various websites. He began his career working for legendary broadcaster/writer Stan Fischler from 2002-04 & his resume also includes an internship at the ECHL.
Dan Rice

11 Comments

  1. I once had a booger smeared on the back of my Kings Gretzky jersey at The Rock for no reason (besides LA winning, I guess), but that’s neither here or there, haha. Good article, Dan.

  2. Want to see etiquette? Go to a Flames/Oilers game. There’s tons of beaking between the rival fans, but as long as liquor consumption isn’t heavy, everyone tends to stay reasonably civil.

    • I’ve been to a few Oil Kings/Hitmen games in Edmonton (as a Calgary fan), as well as a couple of other WHL arenas, and it’s always been a great experience. A few shouts of “Calgary sucks” – but nothing worse. I wander around during intermission, and have had a few interesting conversations – my favourite was the guy who frowned on the “Calgary sucks” shouts, saying that fans should cheer FOR their team, not AGAINST the other (“Kootenay sucks” is entirely different though! :).

      In Calgary, I sit in the home team’s defending end, so I’m often surrounded by fans of the visiting team. Again, I’ve had some good conversations, when we’re all so inclined. Who can’t respect the fans who take a week-long bus trip to follow their team on the road! The few Flames games that I’ve been to, I’ve worn visiting colours (although not the Oilers) – nobody’s said a word about it.

      I often like individual players on opposing teams – I just cheer for a good game (but maybe not TOO good, against my favourite team).

      Regardless of which team or players we cheer for, we’re all hockey fans.

  3. This article is very well written and I am extremely proud to be the mom of such a talented writer.

    I guess I raised him right too!!!

  4. People can cheer for a variety of teams that aren’t the home team. I sit with season ticket holders on all sides who are die-hard fans from a some of our team’s rivals. We have a good time ribbing each other and cheer for each other, despite ourselves. Last night we had an entire busload of fans from our opponent’s city who counter cheered when we cheered. It was a little contest between us, but everyone was pretty friendly and happy. I was really impressed by the cheeriness and amity of the visiting fans, despite the fact that they lost in a very tight and exciting game. They’ll be back tonight looking for vengeance and we’ll cheer just as loud, but no less friendly towards them. There is NO excuse for vulgarity and hatred at a sporting event, especially when there are children present.

  5. Beautiful job Dan as always. Definitely not your normal stuff but well written and argued.

  6. I was at the game near this guy and non of his story is true! Yes we told him to sit down but he started with an entire section!

  7. Good article. the guy clearly is desperate for attention. If you read his reddit post, he even ends it with, “I CAN’T WAIT TO GO BACK NEXT YEAR AND SEE WHAT HAPPENS.” the guy is clearly looking to start trouble, and I’m almost sad he didn’t get it. I know violence is bad, but sometimes people need to get tuned up when they do shit like this so they can learn their lesson. I’ve read twitter posts from multiple people that this guy was at the Islanders game recently doing the EXACT same thing…. so this isn’t an isolated case.

  8. Dan you are and always have been on point. You know for certain that this guy even told friends and family about his plan and even purchased the Team USA for this reason only. I have been to plenty of games as a fan and member of the media and these types are all over the place.

    I understand wanting to cheer for the opposing team (I did that when my beloved Sabres played the Devils in NJ) and I wore a Sabres sweatshirt that night. I went into it fully expecting some kind of dig (which I got but respectfully) before and during the game. When the game ended and the Devils won a few people pointed and made jokes at me but it was all in fun. I even beat a few people to the punch when we made eye contact saying things like “So that is what it looks like to be a fan of a team that wins a game”.

    I suppose it is all on how you act and this guy got what he wanted. He wasn’t a victim here. I could keep going but I will spare you all.

  9. The guy’s only purpose of attending the game was to make a scene and piss off Devils fans.
    Case closed that he behaved like a drunk donkey then made up a story.
    He has major issues and should be ignored going forward.

    Security was too lax with him, one warning to sit down and if not See Ya.

  10. Great commentary on etiquette, Dan! See you at the game today!

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